The thing about growing up with an Us vs. Them, borderline father is that there's no gray area.
This morning, I was listening to two people talk about how, in their family, their feelings were dismissed as inappropriate or stupid. In response to some hurt, the parent would say "You shouldn't feel that way." Or, "Suck in that lower lip, that's just stupid." And the child's response was to learn that their feelings were incorrect.
My family was the opposite. My father, being unable to process the idea of a gray area, would respond to mild or moderate situations with by dropping an anvil on it. Let's say "Linda" hurt my feelings. The response was: "Well, Linda is an evil bitch."
Now, Linda (who is fictitious) is not an evil bitch. She just hurt my feelings.
Life is the gray areas, man.
Love to all. Even you, "Linda."
1 comment:
WOW that made me think do I do that? I definatly try not to and now I sure will be more thoughtful of the you shouldn't feel that ways.
Thanks
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