Every now and then I surf the links of MY links. I look at people who people I find interesting find interesting. Say THAT three times fast.
This post scared the crap out of me, from a "Let's accidentally turn my daughter into a bulimic" perspective.
Then again, I'm exhausted, and am going to take a nap now. I commented on her post. Hope I didn't overreact.
Love to all. Even you, the mom who extended the visiting four-year-old's tantrum-laden playdate ending by about twenty minutes.
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I think this lady is overeacting... I was small as a kid and I'm still small today... Some people are just biologically small! Eating doesn't do anything to me! She should just let her daughter eat to her own appetite, a balanced diet, sleep sure, but also outside play time to get the colours she so desperately wants to see! Anyways... :)
And I also like looking at the links of the people I like to! :D I found some good blogs that way! ;) Yours is an example...... ;)
Oof. Forcing a good eater to eat for volume is a bad idea. I'm with you.
I was the same weight from age 12 through 18. I just got taller. And trust me- I never missed a meal.
I read that post and the one that followed. She sure is intense. Yikes!
who said the kid's eating at a good volume? maybe she isn't and the mom is trying to make her eat at a good volume, putting a balanced meal in front of her and making her eat it, like she said?
yeah, she's intense, but so are a lot of people that put themselves in that situation - parenting kids who go to school with kids who are parented by intense people. but that doesn't mean she's a bad mother, is in any way making her kid bulimic, or that the kid in any way is eating healthy. heck, i'd fake being full if there were vegetables on the table too. thank god my mom made me eat them.
Laserdogs, I have three kids in Westchester NY. 'Nuff Said.
Regardless of who is "intense," that's a dangerous and inappropriate response.
And yeah, it actually DOES mean she's more likely to make her kid have an eating disorder.
It's like you're writing two different comments. One promoting healthy eating comments, and another pretending the post in question didn't say half of what it said.
BTW: If she had checked with the kids doctor, this would be a whole different kettle o' fish.
Nice to meetcha, BTW.
I'm 15. I read that link. It doesn't sound right. Teachers say all kinds of retarded things that should be ignored.
Sam - for 15, you structure your sentences better than a lot of adults. Rock on.
I'd say that teachers say all kinds of things that should be questioned or verified, rather than ignored, you know?
In this case, I'd say: verified with a doctor.
I guess I'm not really seeing where it "DOES" make her more likely to give her child an eating disorder. It sounds like the extent of what she said to her child were positive things about eating habits - like telling her child she HAD to eat all the food she put in front of her. I think you may be assuming that there was an unhealthy amount or unhealthy type of food on that plate.
And also, she talked about having her child checked for anemia. Which would be verifing with a doctor.
She seems to be freaking out - something you and pretty much everyone else uses a blog to do on a regular basis. But I wouldn't intepret that as her moving towards giving her child a disorder, no more than I would interpret your posts and indicating that you will actually act on a lot of the topics you vent about. It just looks a lot more like venting to me.
Having had extreme weight issues of my own in the past, I have a really hard time dealing with this topic at all. So I'm going to leave it alone for now.
But on a related note... I watched Devil Wears Prada this weekend... luckily I pre-screened before I let the girls watch it, because throughout the movie they kept referring to Ann Hathaway's character as "fat"... because she was a size 6.
And we wonder why are kids are screwed up...
Lisa, I took that to show how screwed up the modeling industry is. But I totally agree. If you don't know that the idea is convoluted, you might get the wrong idea.
Rich, Bonanza really does appear to be a good mom. I think she just kinda freaked out a bit. But if you read her other posts about her kid you'll see the ones where she is as human as can be and always apologizes when she has made a mistake. She sticks up for her kid and supports her. I'm sure the situation will even out and she'll remember that she knows what is best for her kid and tell the teacher to f off.
funny, we have a nation of obease children, and teachers are complaining of a "frail" one.
I think this is definitely a case of only seeing a part of the whole.
From what I can gather - having read her for a while - BJ WRITES "intense". Just like I do.
Her blog is where she puts her fears and insecurities and the thoughts that race around in her head.
I TOTALLY get your point about basically needing to keep weight completely OFF the radar for kids - I make an effort even to do that with my son.
I think, however, her fear was more about her daughter's health than her weight.
Anyway - like I said, I don't think her blog is necessarily a "literal" translation of her life. :-)
Gina, I believe you. And I certainly don't know her well enough to make sweeping judgments. The thing about the post about which I was commenting is that she took action based on the weird comments from school, which scared me...
which brings me to...
Britt: same point. I totally understand writing intensely. Lord knows, I'm a freak myself.
But the part that scared me was the ACTION taken. Not the dramatic internal dialog. I can totally relate to that part.
Anyway, no biggie. I haven't actually gone back to Bonanza's blog, since... didn't mean to offend anyone.
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